Modern Morals: My mother says I should invite all my cousins ​​to my wedding, do I have to?

Modern Morals: My mother says I should invite all my cousins ​​to my wedding, do I have to?

We are on a limited budget and I only want to invite the three cousins ​​closest to me.

People can often feel an “obligation” to invite other people to their wedding and, likewise, to attend weddings to which they are invited. Photo: Getty

Question: We are planning our wedding on a limited budget and are having major issues with the guest list. We are trying to limit the numbers and it is very, very difficult. I have three sets of cousins. I have no relationship with any of them, but I am friendly with a cousin from one family and two cousins ​​from another. We don’t have the space or the money to invite all my cousins ​​but I would like to invite three of them and I’m sure they expect to be invited.

I was happy with my decision until I mentioned it to my mother. She says there will be World War III in her family if I only invite three and she told me it has to be all or nothing. But we just can’t invite them all and I can’t imagine telling the three cousins ​​I’m friends with that they’re not invited.